Dwell on the Good.

When you are in a marriage that is sex-less it is easy to look each day at the person that you share your life with and feel all manner of negative thoughts. I went through many years of my marriage wondering why this person I loved would want to hurt me by not giving me what I needed. One day I was driving to work and began to think about all the things my wife would not give me in our marriage, right then a old Bible verse popped into my head, "whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." I understood in that moment for the first time in my life I had a decision to make. A decision that only I could do. I could choose to look at the negative in our marriage, what was missing, needs unmet or I could choose to look on the good things, the amazing things this person gives to me. The verse says in other translations to DWELL on these things. Dwell on the good. No one can do this for you, it's your choice to focus on the good things in your marriage. If you fail to make this choice disappointment turns to anger which turns to bitterness and resentment. Don't wait until tomorrow to start changing your attitude. When a negative thought about your spouse creeps into your head reject it and start telling yourself all the good things this person brings to your life. Decide today to "Dwell" on the good.